I TRIED TO SCREAM BUT MY HEAD WAS UNDERWATER

 "Children with daddy and mommy issues or suffers of scapegoat effects are just some losers who couldn't achieve anything in life", said every other person ever, without even realizing the depth of this issue. Daddy issues are one of the most tossed-around words. It’s become a catchall term to describe almost anything a woman does when it comes to sex and relationships.

Daddy issues aren’t something that’s only reserved for women with absentee, abusive (emotionally or physically), or disloyal fathers.
Daddy issues are just as prevalent in women who have a Dad that was and is present.

Parents who don't love their children are not as uncommon as they seem. Parental is not something that everyone gets and not getting it growing up is nothing but an utter sphere of pain, the unbearable agony can be understood only by someone who has been there, for others PARENTAL LOVE IS NATURAL.

In my observation of families, I have noted countless examples of well-meaning parents engaging in behavior that is insensitive, misattuned, or harmful to their children, while earnestly believing that they love them and have their best interests at heart. These parents are telling the truth, although on a defensive level when they tell their adult children who have been emotionally hurt that they loved them and did the best they could for them. It’s true: They did the best that they were capable of, but more often than not, they simply weren't able to really see their child as a separate person and meet his or her needs.

Adding to that, some kids often form an interest in drugs and anti-depressants all because they crave their parent’s approval and love.

At times, parents claim they love their children and make sacrifices for their better future but fail to show their love. Constant disapprovals, empty gestures, anger, and impossible demands can lead the child to a hell dimension and can make it very difficult for them to get out of that marshy monstrous day hell.  

It is not always the parent's fault at times, there are some reasons that kinda force parents to act in a certain way, it is not about you kiddo your parent has some unsolved mystery of their own.

If the parents were hurt in their developmental years, they will have problems accepting love and intimacy from their children. Faced with the emotional pain that it causes them, parents will unconsciously distance themselves from their children.

So, darling, it is not your fault, you are allowed to live a life of your own and have your own opinions which might not coincide with that of your parents, because after all, it is our own life. 

And for the parents, I know it can be hard on you but just one sentence of your child's appreciation and an expression of your love for them can turn their life over and can boost their self-esteem to many folds. 

You got it

xoxo

kikki